Divorce - An Awakening

One of the questions thought about after a divorce is: "When did it start? Actually, that is a relatively simple thing to answer. Let me start first by saying that it does not happen before a judge in a courtroom. That is only the legal formality of severing the legal bonds, and again, like legally being unbound from a "marriage," gives notice to third parties that you are now legally apart and no longer restricted to the "marriage." The divorce takes place long before you get to the courtroom. In fact, the truth is, like a true marriage takes place long before the wedding ceremony, the divorce takes place before you ever have the wedding ceremony. It just had not had time to be activated. But, I know that you would rather have a less abstract way of thinking about it. So, let's bring it up to, and in the time frame of say, your having lived together for five years. During that time you see the wheels falling off the wagon. You haven't made up your mind to leave the mess you're in but you definitely know that things are not what you hoped and thought they would be. The longer you stay the worse gets.